Thursday, July 31, 2008

Planes, trains and automobiles


So we finally got the "OK" from the Canadian government to return to Canada on July 24th...a week after Millie was born.  Yay!!  After being gone from home for nearly a month, nothing sounded sweeter!!  Jaimeson arranged our flights and we took off from Orlando at 6 am on Sunday, July 27th...Millie was 10 days old.  Jaimeson and I, as two adults with many frequent flier miles under our belts, were not looking forward to the long day of travel...and could only imagine how difficult it might be with a newborn.  We thoroughly planned ahead...making sure Millie's eating/sleeping schedule fit with the take offs and landings of both legs of our flights as well as our layover in Denver.  We had heard from many sources the importance of feeding babies upon take off and landing, to avoid painful ear pressure and pops.  Anxiously, we boarded our flight (we were able to pre-board, since we now fall into the category of "passengers travelling with small children"), took our seats and got comfortable.  We had our bottles ready...our soothers ready...blankets, toys etc.  Whatever we "might" need to calm little Millie in the event of an outburst during the flight.   Passengers sitting next to and around us sweetly commented "how cute she was" and wanted to know "how old she was."  But their expressions showed signs of angst having to be seated next to such a young one.  To our amazement, and all those around us, flight attendants included, Millie didn't make a peep.  She slept the entire time, on both flights.  Incredible!  During our 4 hour layover in Denver, Uncle Billy (my brother) coincidentally and unbeknownst to us, happened to be in the same United lounge waiting for his flight to Buenos Aires.  We couldn't believe it!!  He got to meet and hold and cuddle with Millie...so special!!!!!  When our second flight finally landed in Seattle at about 6pm (15 hours after our initial departure in Orlando) we were greeted by all of our AMAZING friends in Seattle with a "Welcome" party for Millie at Jodi and Justin Arnold's house!  It was so special to see everyone and feel the love.  After hanging with the friends for about an hour, we said our goodbyes, knowing that we still had 3 more hours of driving to the border to get home to Vancouver.  We drove, exhausted....and again, Millie slept...not a peep!  We finally arrived home at 1am...almost 24 hours after we began that days journey home.  Millie could not have been a more perfect traveler...what a champ!!!  I've got to say...she is really making our transition into parenthood easy!!!  We love you, Millie....thanks!!! xoxo- Julie

Saturday, July 26, 2008

Adios y gracias, mis abuelos nuevos!


Each of the 3 trips that we made from Orlando to Stuart, Florida during the month of July was for the planned purpose of introducing my Dad and Jill to their new baby granddaughter, Amelia. But for the first two of them, such was not the case. Adoption is nothing if not a game of patience, and little Millie proved that theory true time after time, from a planned C-section to potential induction from an infection her birthmother had. For two and a half weeks, each time there was news, Julie and I and my parents in Stuart would build our excitement to a crescendo, only to learn days later that once again, we would have to wait for our life's treasure. So we took advantage of the time given to us by a higher power, and made the most of our time as a family with one less person than we hoped to have in the picture. Dad and Jill were amazing - helping to provide us (and themselves!) very necessary pauses in our quest in order to enjoy some of life's simpler pleasures - visits with our Uncles, putting around the Florida "Intercoastal" waterways on the boat, fun seafood dinners and dancing to some good old rock n' roll afterward, battles on the tennis court (Dad managed to win the last one, but I think it was the racket myself!) throwing a game of Euchre, hitting the gym, and introducing us to a number of positive and understanding friends of theirs in the area. But despite all of those good times, like us, Grandpa and Grandma had quite a lot of trepidation about our situation. They were, after all, right there with us - to be our first safety net if Amelia could not be our's in the end. But whenever that discussion would come to light, my Dad would say the same thing, "Stay positive, dude." And we did. And everything did, in fact, work out in an amazing way for all of us. So today as both kids and parents ourselves, we say thank you to Grandpa Jay and Grandma Jill(ybean!). Thank you for being the best pit crew team that any parents could ask for. And like you've said, Dad, what could be a better birthday gift for your upcoming 60th than a beautiful baby granddaughter who loves you?   - Jaimeson 

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Unpredictable Skies

Well...it's day 7 with Millie Sky and I can't remember what life was like before her arrival.  It feels as though she has always been in our life.  She is simply amazing!!  Many people have been asking us about her name and how we came up with it.  To be honest, there is really no rhyme or reason to it, except that we love it.  There's no legacy in either part of it, nor the nickname (sorry family), and we don't know anyone with those names - although I guess if Amelia Earhart wasn't cool, someone would have told us that already.  We always loved "Millie," and I had that name on the books before we ever knew we were having a daughter.  "Amelia," we thought could be a little more formal for "Millie" and when she gets older, she can choose which she would rather go by.  As for "Sky" that is the west-coast, earth-loving, liberal hippie in both of us (sorry family).  Every middle name that I proposed to Jaimeson had something to do with nature.  We thought "Sky" was pretty.  We were about 99% sure of the name before we ever boarded our flight to come down to Florida, but since we've been here, we have given new meaning to the name.  We have witnessed the most incredible skies ever!  From sunny and clear, to dark and stormy, huge cracks of lightning to rolling clouds, the skies above have been extraordinary.  So we began to liken those unpredictable skies to little Millie's unpredictable arrival into this world.  One week she was breech and we were going with a c-section.  But then the little booger went and turned herself around (apparently a rare feat so late in the game).  Next they were going to induce Millie's "tummy mommy" due to an infection, but then things cleared up and Millie wasn't ready to come then either.  Finally, on her own terms, she was ready....about 12 hours before her actual due date of July 18th.  Two days after her birth, when she was truly ours, we were driving down to Stuart, Fl from Orlando...still in shock that the three of us were a family.  The skies were getting over a brief rain shower and there in front of us was the most beautiful, vivid rainbow shining through the clouds.  We both noticed it instantly and smiled, reflecting back on the past 3 weeks.  I commented to Jaimeson that "we had our pot of gold right here in the car with us!"  We think "Sky" is a very befitting middle name for sweet Amelia, and Amelia Sky Keegan is a perfect name for our little pot of gold. - Julie




Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Baby Millie, the greatest gift of all!






On Thursday, July 17th at 5:34am, the most exciting moment of our lives transpired 50 feet from the room where Julie and I slept soundly. Amelia Sky Keegan had been born. Twelve minutes later, after we burst into the delivery room and broke into tears, her Birthmother handed a small ball of life to us and said, "Here's your baby girl." 

From the first moment we laid eyes upon her, we were both sure that Little Millie was the most beautiful baby ever. As if reinforcing the fact, the doctor and nurse made similar comments. Julie held our new daughter for ten minutes and then passed her to me. I smiled and laughed and cried as I felt the rush of a new life knock me off my feet. I was a Dad now, and Julie was a Mom.

We had determined the name Amelia Sky in the days and weeks leading up to her birth, but it was cemented following numerous references to both words as we journeyed to, from, and around the Orlando area. Street names, weather patterns and even a TV advertisement made us believers that we had picked something special.  

Millie was 7.1 pounds and 20" tall at birth, and in great health. I remember someone in the nursery in the following hours telling us, "You guys must have hit the baby lottery!" We thanked her for the compliment, and said we were most proud of the Birthmother.

In the following days and hours, consent forms would be signed to make Millie our daughter forever. It was an emotionally-saturated whirlwind with the highest of stakes on both ends. Never before had Julie and I been so near to being parents, and yet, never before had either of us been in such a vulnerable emotional state. In the end, our ultimate happiness was delivered in the form of the absolute sacrifice of another human being. We will never forget all of the love that Millie's "Tummy Mommy" had in her heart to make the choice that she did, and to see her promise all the way through. Indeed, we intend to share that story with Millie proudly, so she will know the love that created her and delivered her into our arms and our lives.

For Julie and I, who both have wanted to be parents for longer than we can remember, the journey to be with our daughter, however taxing, already is fading into a distant memory. Millie is now 5 days old, and we are bonding with her in the same way that natural parents bond with their children. For us, each nighttime feeding, diaper changing, and even heartfelt baby cries are the most gratifying and enjoyable moments of our adult lives.

We love you, Millie, and will always be there for you. Welcome to the world.